As a Limudei Kodesh curriculum advisor I struggle with these concepts as well. How do we reach the fine balance of enriching our girls with a yiddish educational background without dampening their enthusiasm. Think of the excitement with which preschool age children come home with in regard to learning parshas hashavua. As our students grow older, so do their responsibilities towards this subject specifically and other subjects in general. The activities and hands on learning becomes less and less thereby directly effecting their enthusiasm (think- parsha final...) of course we strive to instill life-long lessons to be learned from the parshios but the workload involved in implementing these values can sometimes be the cause for the lack of chiyus?
As a kindergarten Morah I keep things simple, focus on Hashem being all powerful, and on His love for us, which combines into knowing that He is able to do whatever it takes to protect and take care of Klal Yisroel in the best way possible. Come Rosh Hashana focus on the concept of Hamelech, Shivisi is all about Hashem being able to be everywhere and is always there to protect us. During Breishis emphasize how Hashem created flowers just because He wanted us to enjoy a beautiful world, and in return Klal Yisroel beautifies the mitzvos that we do. Let the children hear you Thank Hashem for the weather when you go out to play, thank Hashem for Mondays when you start learning a new parsha, and chalk up any good thing that happens on Tuesday as happening because Tuesday is a double 'tov' day, and be happy on Wednesday because its getting closer to Shabbos. In short, a sentence here, a phrase there all contribute in making a child feel that they're glicklach to be a yid. One of my most satisfying moments was when spotting a thriving ant hill, heaven to a little boy, Chaim spontaneously exclaimed "look at all these ants, Hashem loves us so much!" Thats true, undiluted, passionate emunah! During the summer I shift to working with teanage girls. It's sad how they're jaded, how they metamorphosed from feeling privileged to feeling burdened. I've noted how many guest speakers share nisyonos they went through and how they used Emuna to survive. While the speakers are definitely inspiring and special role models, I wonder if the message we are giving our girls is that life is hard but you can overcome it. How about speakers start sharing all the wonderful things that happen to them? Share positive hashgacha pratis stories, stories that highlight how Hashem has your back. I'm not a professional speaker, nor am I a High School macheneches, yet the pindrop silence in the dining room when I shared simple hashgacha stories that helped the camp run smoothly throughout the week showed me how starved our girls are to hear how we're supported by His hand. We are in galus, but life isn't a vale of tears. How about all of us collectively, parents and mechanchos, put an effort in focusing on the positive happenings? Es is gut tzu zehn a Yid!
Children need to be taught to be responsible and earn items and privileges. If children are brought up with the attitude it comes to me then they will never be satisfied and always want more.
Devora* walked into her seminary interview, ready for the barrage of questions, the transcript-scan, and the infamous Ramban. The first question caught her off guard. ‘How are you going to instill a passion for Yiddishkeit in your children?’ Um. No amount of Ramban
“I worry about my sons,” says a Lakewood mother of seven. What does she worry about? What do we all worry about? “I just want them to feel connected,” she says. “How do I know what their feelings towards Yiddishkeit will be once they leave